Women Kimono

If you wondering what monks could have to do with dating a Japanese woman, let me tell you a little story!

Two Japanese monks are on a pilgrimage. In a village, they come across a young seventeen year old girl wearing a long kimono. She's trying to cross a very muddy road but she's not daring to step into the mud.

So, one of the monks picks her up and carries her across the road, free from the mud and puts her down.

And so the monks walk on in silence for another four or five hours, just practicing normal silence. Then, as they are getting closer to their destination, one of the monks says to the other who helped the young girl,

"Oh, you know, you shouldn't have done that because we monks are not even supposed to touch women. So you shouldn't have picked up that girl, you're not supposed to do that."

The other monk replies, "Oh, are you still carrying that girl? I put her down hours ago."

Do you get the point?

The first monk got it over and done with.

The other monk was still carrying the girl - the event - in his head, as heavy baggage. For hours he was walking with the burden.

Maybe he was secretly fantasizing or maybe he was just fearful because he suspected his 'impure' thoughts. Whatever the specifics of his internal chatter were, it was a form of suffering. And it was unnecessary.

It's the same with most Western men who want to or are trying to date a Japanese woman. They are thinking one thing while their actions are betraying them.

They want to be intimate with their date or just a Japanese girl they know, yet they ignore their impulses and true desires.

Why on earth would they do that?

It's usually fear mixed with not knowing what to do... even if they did want to follow their heart.

Let me ask you something. And when you're noticing your reactions, I want you to really think about the day-in day-out reality of each instance - not just giving your thoughts to the 'proper' response, to what you should think.

So, if you knew that you couldn't fail, what would you rather experience?

a) For months on end, getting to know a Japanese woman, as friends. All the while, wanting to be close to her, wanting to be intimate, yet never really knowing if it was appropriate to 'make a move' or even how to, nor even knowing whether she was interested in you the same way

Or

b) In the space of one month, asking out a Japanese woman, getting to know her just enough where you both feel comfortable around each other and then sleeping with her. Not only that, but also having the option of really getting to know her for the following months and becoming closer and more intimate with each passing day.

If you're honest, it's pretty obvious any guy would want the second option, right?

Now, it's not about sleeping with her and then giving her the flick. At least, it doesn't have to be. It's about making the most of your time and hers.

If you are going to spend months getting to know anybody, wouldn't you want to break the tension early and be able to open up, freeing yourself from carrying unwanted baggage (in the form of doubts, worries and concerns)?

Think about how much more you could discover about each other. I'm trying to end your suffering!

There is no need to play games in your head. It can all be resolved with action. And not just any action, but action with purpose when it comes to dating a Japanese woman.

Once you become crystal clear on that purpose, your actions begin to flow accordingly, like a bulls-eye on target.